Masturbating every other day is a fun and great way to relieve some stress. Ever noticed feeling more relaxed after that toe-curling orgasm? That’s because masturbation is scientifically proven to relieve stress.
The benefits that come from masturbation are way more than just curing your sexual frustration: “Masturbation improves self-confidence, reduces stress, and helps you sleep better,” explains sexologist Emily Morse, creator and host of the podcast Sex With Emily. “These widespread benefits are largely unknown, so we often can’t understand why our partners would need to please themselves without us.”
Not only does it help you to understand your body better, what turns you on, and what gets you feeling hot and heavy, it will also make you more comfortable asking for it in bed. Truth is, a lot of people aren’t super comfortable jumping head first into sex without dipping their toes in a little.
This is one reason why mutual masturbation – aka touching yourself with your partner (whether it’s in person or over video/phone call) – is a great way to engage in sexual activity with them.
You Learn What The Other Likes
This is probably one of the best parts about mutual masturbation: you get to understand what your partner enjoys, how they like it, and what feels good for them. Having them demonstrate it on themselves – from pace to the intensity of the touch – is a great way to learn more about what they like. Some of us learn better from seeing than instructions and with a full view at the other’s techniques, copying them and bringing your partner to climax in future just got a whole lot easier.
Open Communication
Whether it’s dirty talking about what you’re thinking about, what you want them to do, or even about what exactly you’re feeling, mutual masturbation can open the doors of communication for both of you. Communication is one of the most important parts in a sexual relationship not just due to boundaries and consent, but to ensure you are both enjoying the experience to its fullest.
Helping With Low Libido
It’s normal to feel a dip in your sex drive. So when you don’t want to have sex, sometimes it’s just a little easier to whack out a wank. Even if only one person is masturbating, and you watch your partner partake instead, you may benefit in the intimacy of sharing this act. Who knows – watching them crank one out may encourage your libido’s return too.
You Are Almost Always Guaranteed To Get Off
Most times, nobody is more efficient at making yourself orgasm than yourself – and your favourite sex toy. Removing the pressure of relying on your partner to give you the big O, as well as your own intricate knowledge of your nether regions, mutual masturbation is the perfect way to ensure you are both getting to cum. It is also a quick route to experiencing simultaneous orgasm.
Spice The Sex Up
Masturbating in front of each other may not be something couples do often – but if you’re lacking in excitement in the bedroom, it can be a fun, fresh way to spice up your sex life and get dirty together without having to even touch the other person. There are even ways to push mutual masturbation even further too – try making sure you engage in eye contact at all times, instruct the other person on what to do to themselves, or even choosing what sex toy they use can make mutual masturbation all the more a double act.
Improving Intimacy
What’s sexier than seeing your partner touching themselves in front of you? Doing this together can make your relationship more intimate, because watching the other do what is usually a solo act takes what is personal and makes it a shared experience.
This means that not only will you connect on a closer level sexually, but it is likely that your connection on a relationship level will deepen – kind of like when you first use the toilet in front of the other, but with a lot less toilet roll involved.
