Your friends deserve some sex positivity in their lives. Especially in an unprecedented (sorry) era when they’re perhaps not getting any as often as they’d like. Sex-positive gifting doesn’t always have to mean awkwardly wrapping up an 8-inch dildo and telling your courier it’s definitely a dog chew… although it is a bit of that. Sex-positive gifts come in the form of candles, t-shirts, pottery and art. Ordinarily, you might need to do a bit of sleuthing to find these kinds of gifts. But, as always, I’ve done the digging so you don’t have to!
The One-Night Stand-le
If you’re anything like me, you probably miss the rush of the classic one-night stand more than ever. Passion fruit cocktails followed by low maintenance (protected) sex, a stuffed crust pizza and an overpriced taxi to see you home. I don’t know about you, but I’m certain that whole scenario would be waiting for me behind the pearly gates of heaven.
Luckily, there’s a candle for that. Pop-culture inspired novelty brand Flaming Crap has brought out ‘The One Night Stand-le’ so you don’t have to reminisce over faded memories any longer. The candle contains 4 layers, and each potent layer exudes a statement night out scent. From latex condom to new car smell, you’ll find yourself transported back to the club queue without even leaving your bedroom.
2020 F*cked Me And All I Got Was This Lousy Sweater
Taking ‘you’ve gotta laugh or you’ll cry’ to dizzying new heights, women-owned sexual wellness brand Self & More have come out with these 100% organic cotton jumpers in collaboration with HIT + RUN. Heralded as ‘the graduation jumper for the disgruntled class of 2020,’ I’ve personally decided to buy matching ones for myself and all my mates.
Silicone-based CBD Anal Lube
HOWL is a queer-owned sex-positive community for all genders and sexualities to experiment with wellness. This CBD lube is perfect for anyone who wants to explore anal play, but doesn’t know where to start. As well as being ‘ideal for shower sex’, this lube is designed for longer sessions – meaning you can really take your time and make yourself comfortable. Fragrance-free and non-flavoured, it may feel kinder to your skin than other lubricants on the market right now.
Oh, and 50p of every bottle sold is donated to UK Black Pride. How cool is that?!
Nixit Bundle
Nixit is a truly sex-positive brand of sustainable menstrual cups which would be ideal for that special Palentine’s gift. The bundle contains a box of 15 wipes, a 100% organic cotton tote bag (with cute naked bodies embroidered onto it!) as well as the staple menstrual cup.
My Viv 3-Piece Dilator Set
Try not to forget your friends with Vaginismus when giving out your sexy gifts! Not everyone with a diagnosis of the disorder will be able to access dilators on prescription – which can leave sufferers feeling defeated. One of the most life-changing gifts you could get for a person with Vaginismus is a set of dilators. I guarantee the recipient will get a lot of use out of them.
The My Viv 3-Piece Dilator Set is made out of soft silicone for comfortable insertion. Ranging from 2.5 inches to 4.6 inches, this is a fab non-daunting starter pack for people getting used to penetration for the first time. There’s no time limit on each dilator, but the gradual increase in sizing equals easy progression for the person using them.
Gaia Biodegradable G-Spot Vibrator
If you’re wanting to buy your pal or partner their very first sex toy, there’s no better place to start than with a biodegradable bullet vibrator. Canadian-based sexual wellness store Bonjibon has made the ‘world’s first’ recyclable sex toy in the form of the Gaia Biodegradable G-Spot Vibrator. Small-but-powerful, this vibrator carries 5 rhythms at 5 different speeds, meaning the person using it has full control over its intensity.
Also, Bonjibon is very fun to say. Just putting it out there.